Do you trust your own inner compass and navigation skills to guide you in the direction you want to go? Have you got beliefs that are aligned with this idea?
Do you have a process to support you when you want to make a change?
I’ve been asked a few questions recently about the value of having a process/tool at your fingertips, like PSYCH-K®, that you can use to support you to make changes in your life. Another question that has come up is, when should I ask for help to address a particular challenge, versus working through it myself? I hope the information below helps, especially if you are new to the idea.
Why is it so helpful to learn a process/tool so you can make changes yourself?
It offers us the opportunity to move from a place of giving away our power, seeking answers outside of ourselves, to a place of understanding that we actually have an innate wisdom within us where the answers to all our questions already exist.
In days gone by we lived a life intimately connected with our environment, following the natural rhythms and cycles of nature. In modern times, many of us have lost that deep connection with nature and with ourselves, living a largely artificial life at a pace that technology dictates. It’s easy to believe that we have lost the connection to our own inner wisdom and that we need to search outside of ourselves for the answers, especially when it comes to making a change.
The more we can come back into harmony with nature and with ourselves the more we can tune into that innate wisdom. Ultimately, I believe, we know ourselves better than anyone else.
Having a tool at our fingertips to support us to adapt and to direct change in our life, with more ease and grace, as opposed to responding reactively, is of huge benefit, especially in this huge planetary evolution we are currently in!
How to find the right process/tool for you if you are just starting out.
The best way is to dip your toes in the water, begin by reading about different processes, see which ones you are drawn to and then have an experience of how it works. Try a few and see what resonates with you, then seek out a workshop so that you can learn the process for yourself. One of the things I often hear from people is how will I know if I’ve found the right tool.
Don’t be afraid to explore further by experiencing a 1-1 session. If you find out it’s not really for you then synchronicity is often at play and any exploration will lead you in the direction you need to go next. Nothing is ever wasted, you’ll have more knowledge and when you look back in hindsight you’ll more than likely be able to join the dots of the path you took and see how one exploration led to another. Don’t let indecision be a block to learning a valuable tool.
It’s useful to search for a process that provides a gateway to reconnecting you with your own inner wisdom rather than providing answers from an external source, filtered through someone else’s belief system. The more you develop trust in your own inner wisdom/internal compass the more you will be able to tune in to what resonates with you. This way you can naturally lean into what feels aligned with you.
The process I use
As you know, I use PSYCH-K®, a simple and effective tool that enables you to identify and change limiting beliefs held within your subconscious mind. These limiting beliefs are running as programmes all the time and dictate your current experience in life. By changing the limiting belief you have the ability to change your experience.
PSYCH-K® involves muscle testing, which simply gives you direct communication with your subconscious and superconscious mind (higher self). In my experience of using muscle testing, the more I used it regularly the more I became in tune with my own intuition/superconscious mind. Using PSYCH-K® is empowering and I know that whenever I reach a fork in the road these days I have a much clearer sense of the way forward, and can easily and quickly remove any blocks that might stand in my way.
I’m not sure if you resonate with this too but in the past, prior to learning PSYCH-K®, I occasionally needed a metaphorical 10-ton truck to knock me sideways in order to get me back on the right track. Thankfully that’s not the case any more, I no longer need that extreme experience to stop me in my tracks. Instead, I’m constantly recalibrating and checking the GPS (my Greater Personal Self) for the road ahead. As a result, I’m more connected to my intuition and less disconnected. It’s my experience that the more we are connected to our superconscious mind the quicker and easier we get the messages and lessons we need to receive and integrate on our journey through life.
We are here to experience life from this human perspective for our own individual and collective evolution. The experience doesn’t have to be through suffering unless we believe it to be so!
Being supported by having sessions with another professional
While this is fantastic and can support you to make deep and lasting changes in your life I’ve come to understand that the little and often approach, using a process such as PSYCH-K®, can often be underestimated, yet has the potential to move mountains.
Sometimes there can be a misconception that in order to do deep work we need to seek someone out who is highly qualified and very experienced in a particular area and then we need to commit to a body of work where we intentionally set out to go very deep. This can lead to us showing up with a huge shopping list of what needs to be ‘fixed.’ There isn’t anything wrong with this but what I would say is that it’s a myth to think that this is the only way, and one of the first perceptions we can change is the belief that we are broken in some way, rather than divinely perfect already.
There are advantages to working with someone else, for sure. Sometimes talking through the issue we’d like to change helps us to process or understand better what is going on, really getting to the point of understanding the aspects of what we want to change. It can also help when someone else reflects back to us in our own words so that we can hear things from a different perspective. One of the most useful things in working with a great facilitator is that they actively listen without judgement. For some people, this may be the first time they have ever really felt heard.
A Facilitator can ask questions too in order to help you to access what it is that you want to experience, instead of what you have currently. They will have confidence in the process they’re using and more than likely a body of experience working with others, in 1-1 sessions, so they can bring their experience to the table to help support you to achieve your goal.
When to ask for help from someone else
When you feel stuck! Perhaps you’ve tried to make changes yourself and come up against block after block. When you have an issue that feels quite big and you aren’t sure where to begin with it. Working with someone else can help you to break it down or identify what is the priority. It’s also great when you just prefer to work with someone else. You can have a level of accountability support built in so that you can commit to making the change and then take the action required to fully experience the results. It’s great having someone to cheer you on from the sidelines and celebrate with you when you share your results.
Resistance: what it looks like and how to tell when you’re experiencing it
Resistance might show up in a variety of forms. You might think that others can make the change but it’s not possible for you. No one in your family has been able to overcome the same kind of challenge you are faced with, so by nature, it will be impossible for you too, or it will be a struggle. You might not feel worthy of the change you’d like to make, for example, the relationship you dream of. You may feel tired or unwell and simply feel you don’t have the energy needed to make the changes on your own. These are simply limiting beliefs that stand between you and your goal.
You may have managed to make the changes necessary to move towards achieving your goal but then when you go to take action, the action seems hard or you fall short at the final hurdle. Or you manage to make the changes and achieve your goal but find the change isn’t sustainable and you fall back into old habits and behaviours.
This is when secondary gain is often at play. Secondary gain is simply where the benefit to stay as you are outweighs the change. Here we simply need to take the benefit into consideration in order to satisfy that need and to ensure the change is then permanent/sustainable.
Secondary gain is an area where it can be helpful to ask for help and support.
The secondary gain can often lie hidden underneath the goal.
How to get the confidence to work on your own.
Practice, experience, curiosity and for some a dogged determination to take control of their own lives. It is often simpler than you think to take control of your own life and direction when you have a process to support you.
Remember the wisdom is already within us, for some of us it’s just been hidden.
We’ve been led to believe that change is hard, it takes a long time and that often it’s a painful process. At least with PSYCH-K®, I know that none of this is true.
So, in summary, some practical tips:
- Commit to learning a process/tool of your choice, if you don’t already have one.
- Start simply (not in a place of crisis).
- Change any beliefs that might not support you using your own process of choice and then –
- Practice regularly.
- When you experience success acknowledge it. You will be far more likely to reach for the process if you have a body of evidence that it works. When you reach a crisis or fork in the road you’ll remember it works and you’ll reach for it.
- When you get stuck ask for help. Sometimes this takes courage, be brave!